

In October of 2023, Casey faced a contempt of court hearing in Connecticut’s family court system for allegedly refusing to cooperate with a court-appointed psychologist assigned to handle reunification therapy between her two young sons and their estranged father.
Casey and her ex-husband had divorced following a domestic abuse incident and arrest in 2020 ending a four-year dysfunctional marriage. The divorce proceedings quickly escalated into a high-conflict divorce – one in which the parties were so at odds that the divorce involved hundreds of motions filed, accusations, protective orders and years of court proceedings.
The two young boys in this matter had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after witnessing the domestic violence and were resistant to seeing their father. In January of 2023, the court appointed Dr. Bruce Freedman to oversee reunification therapy between the boys and their father so that both parents could be involved in their upbringing.
This was the fourth attempt at reunification. Previous attempts had been marred by the children’s resistance and trauma, according to Casey. Some of those past reunification therapists, and the boys’ individual therapists, felt the boys were not yet ready for reunification until they had properly dealt with their PTSD. In essence, they needed more time.
But it had also been years since their father had spent any significant time with them due to the ongoing court proceedings. Casey had full physical custody of them and had protective orders against her ex-husband.
Out of money, Casey had begun to represent herself, while her ex-husband had an attorney, already putting her at a disadvantage when dealing with the intricacies of court procedure and law. She was not only facing a contempt of court charge for hindering reunification therapy but she was also being accused of alienating the children from their father.
According to the plaintiff’s disclosure of an expert witness, “Dr. Freedman is expected to testify to his opinion that [Casey] is alienating the two minor children from their father and the facts that have been presented to him and what he has witnessed himself, which resulted in this opinion. Dr. Freedman is also expected to testify that a change of custody is in the best interests of the minor children in this case.”
Parental alienation is an idea that has taken hold in family court systems throughout the country and internationally. It essentially posits that when a child of divorce, particularly a high-conflict divorce, is resistant to seeing one parent and clings to another it is because they have been influenced and coached – that their mind has been poisoned against the estranged parent.
Although divorce in previous generations was widely recognized to favor mothers, over the past two decades courts largely adopted the practice of assigning custody based on the best interest of the child, and that largely means involvement from both mother and father. Fathers’ rights groups have been instrumental in pushing for courts to give more recognition to their parental rights and, by and large, studies indicate that in a typical divorce, absent abuse, children do much better when they have contact with two supportive and nurturing parents.
To remedy parental alienation, courts often turn to reunification therapy, carried out by court-appointed psychologists. Reunification therapy can involve therapeutic sessions between the psychologist and the child that eventually reintroduce the estranged parent into the sessions.
But the idea of parental alienation has come under scrutiny in recent years, as women and domestic violence experts have increasingly pointed out that claims of parental alienation often involve cases that stem from domestic abuse resulting in the allegedly abused parent being naturally resistant to allowing the abusive ex-partner to continue parenting the child. Divorced women are claiming they are encouraged by attorneys not to mention domestic violence in their court proceedings for fear of a claim of parental alienation being used against them in custody proceedings.
Studies have shown that when a claim of parental alienation is made, courts increasingly side with the alienated party and often reverse custody orders, returning children to an abusive parent. A 2023 report to the United Nations, labeled parental alienation a “pseudo-concept” that endangers the lives of women and children. The idea of parental alienation as a psychological disorder has also come under heavy scrutiny by other psychologists.
Dr. Freedman is well-versed in parental alienation, having trained judges, guardian ad litems (GAL) – attorneys for the minor children – and other attorneys in parental alienation. According to his own testimony and curriculum vitae, he has worked on more than 2,400 court cases handling everything from psychiatric evaluations of parents and children to reunification services.
Casey, naturally, denies alienating the children from their father, saying their resistance to attending reunification therapy is tied to what they witnessed and subsequent incidents, one of which resulted in an abuse substantiation by the Department of Children and Families (DCF) against their father. That substantiation, however, was recently overturned following Casey’s contempt of court case.
She has fought a protracted court battle, not only with her ex-husband, but also with the GAL originally assigned to the case who recommended Dr. Freedman, and now with Freedman himself.
Casey was not only defending herself against the alienation claim and the contempt of court charge, but she was also seeking to have Freedman removed from the case as she believed he was biased in favor of her ex-husband as Freedman took the stand as a witness for him.

Casey and Freedman’s relationship didn’t start on the best foot. Casey had previously contended in court that the GAL assigned to the case was biased in favor of the father and it was that GAL who recommended Dr. Freedman. Casey had sent the names of two psychologists to her ex-husband’s attorney for possible reunification.
The attorney had a list of three, including Freedman, and according to email correspondence, checked with Freedman to see if he knew of Casey’s selections. He did not, and the attorney argued Casey’s selections didn’t list reunification services on their website. To Casey, it appeared that her ex-husband and his attorney were getting the specialist they wanted, one who helped dismiss her choices.
Furthermore, Casey sent a long, detailed email to Freedman regarding her relationship with her ex-husband, listing incidents that had occurred causing both her and the boys’ trauma, protective orders, classes she was taking, therapeutic interventions for the boys and DCF investigations. She then asked a series of questions about his written objectives, treatment modality and familiarity with Jennifer’s Law and coercive control, among many others.
Freedman responded twenty days later after he had completed intake interviews for both Casey and her ex-husband, and in his response said such questions would have been “more appropriate for cross-examination in the court before I was selected,” but assured her that he had a long history of dealing with reunification and domestic violence.
He also hadn’t contacted the children’s therapists to discuss their treatment, even though he was authorized to do so. On the stand, Freedman said he wanted to form his own assessment of the boys before reaching out to their therapists but said he had contacted the first court-appointed reunification therapist.
All this put the initial relationship on shaky ground, leading up to the contempt case and Casey’s motion to have Freedman removed as the reunification therapist in October of 2023.
Under questioning by the plaintiff’s attorney, Dr. Freedman testified that he was originally assigned to the case in January of 2023 and that he set up an appointment for Casey to bring the children to his office so he could meet with them.
However, Casey indicated the children were fighting her, refusing to go. Freedman said this was concerning because there was no reason the children should know why they were coming to his office or what reunification therapy was. As six weeks had passed since he was assigned to the case for reunification efforts, time was of the essence.
According to Freedman, typically reunification would happen over 2-3 months with the separated parent being reintroduced into the child’s life and then having regular contact so that therapy could continue from there. According to emails between Casey and Freedman, he planned to have two sessions with the boys before bringing their father in to join them.
The boys’ resistance was concerning because “there was no reason for the boys to know anything about where they were going, who they were talking to, who I was,” Freedman said during testimony, adding that the boys may have been mistakenly told that their father would be part of the meetings.
There was reason for the boys to know, however, because it had been part of the court order that the boys would be informed by their therapists of the reunification therapy. Casey also has audio recordings of her initial intake meeting with Dr. Freedman in which he instructed her to be sure the therapists told the children their father would not be at the meetings.
As a compromise, Freedman agreed to come to Casey’s home to meet with the boys so they could get accustomed to him before meeting with him in the office. The visit didn’t go well.
“For the first twenty minutes it was an extremely chaotic scene, the boys were running around the house screaming and crying, running into their rooms and slamming the doors,” Freedman testified. He and Casey were eventually able to get Freedman into one of the rooms when they calmed down and he played with the youngest and got the elder child to promise to come to his office.
Freedman was able to meet with the boys for roughly twenty minutes during the home visit, and it was the last contact he had with them.
According to emails and testimony, the boys continued to resist coming to Freedman’s office and there were numerous scheduling conflicts around Casey’s work schedule and the boys’ schedule with their individual therapists and school events. Freedman said he would not return to the house and wanted to conduct the therapy in a neutral setting, his office.
“Obviously, they’re – again, this is my clinical impression – they’re heavily under the influence of their mother and maybe the maternal family, and they’re in their mother’s home. They’re obviously frightened of me for whatever reason, so I need to be able to get them in a more neutral setting where I can talk to them myself without a parent immediately present,” Freedman testified. “I could see … that I should expect an extremely difficult time to pry these boys away from the influence of their mother against their father.”
Freedman also testified that he was concerned that during his home visit, the youngest child approached him and said, “Daddy hit me,” as if he was coached to do so. He testified that he felt the boys’ home environment had been “poisoned against the father,” and that reunification therapy would not be effective in that environment.
After several failed attempts to get the boys to the office, Casey asked Freedman for guidance. His advice was to pick the boys up at school, so that they were already in the car, and then drive them to his office and he would take it from there, adding again that there was no reason the boys should know where they were going or why.
According to emails between Freedman and Casey, she refused to lie to or trick the boys as it went counter to their therapists’ recommendation of being truthful and transparent. She also indicated that something similar had been done by the former GAL with a bad result, creating further distrust among the children.
At this point, the process had dragged on for months with no progress. There were multiple issues played out in both emails and in court over who canceled which meeting, how much was being charged for those meetings and Casey asking for more guidance. Dr. Freedman indicated he was trying to carry out his reunification plan to no avail.
“My plan at that point was I wanted the boys to have a two-week period over the summer, since the summer vacation was approaching, in which they would be with their father without having any contact with their mother so the positive aspects of their relationship with their father could be solidified sufficiently to sustain them through further services,” Freedman said. “Lots of time with a parent can greatly sustain, to restore relationships that were present before.”
Freedman said children spending time with an estranged parent should not have electronic or phone access to the parent as it can be “detrimental” to reunification goals.
When the father reached out to ask about reunification progress, Freedman responded by sending the email exchanges between himself and Casey to the father and his attorney – a point of contention that Casey made during her cross-examination, arguing that he was effectively aiding the opposing party and violating her privacy.
On the stand, Freedman also questioned Casey’s portrayal of abuse and its effect on her and the children, ultimately making her resistant to cooperating with reunification. Throughout the hearing, Casey was not allowed to bring up her abuse allegations over multiple objections by the opposing attorney as it was not pertinent to the contempt matter.
However, it is precisely this issue that has raised the ire of women’s groups, family court reform activists and domestic violence organizations: that domestic abuse allegations and incidents are being ignored in the machinations of the family court system, and by the contracted experts and GALs who facilitate custody evaluations, reunification therapy and psychiatric evaluations under the guise of combatting parental alienation.
“For whatever reasons she has, I believe, to exaggerate the dangerousness of [the father] both to herself and her children, there are some clinical factors that have a lot of weight in producing that behavior,” Freedman said.
Casey objected, but she was overruled.

Court appointed psychologists and custody evaluators are assigned by judges to render their expert opinions, and the court often defers to those opinions. Disputes among families are rarely black and white, but sometimes those expert opinions are at odds with what the child wants, even teenagers, and the legal act of arranging families based on those opinions can have consequences, both good and bad.
Court appointed evaluators and clinicians are also a bit of a closed system. Freedman testified before the Connecticut Finance, Revenue and Bonding Committee against a bill that he says would have allowed parents to choose their own evaluators, something he said was “extremely misguided and destructive.”
“This would allow parents to shop around for evaluators of their own choice. These evaluators would not have to prove their education and experience, their objectivity, and they would not have the benefit of comparing and contrasting information and testing for both parents,” Freedman wrote. “Parents in highly contested custody cases are not interested in objective opinions. They are often entrenched in their own beliefs and viewpoints, and will work hard to find mental health practitioners who support and agree with these.”
Maggie Russell is seventeen years old at the time of her interview with Inside Investigator, but two years ago she was given a psychological evaluation by Dr. Freedman as her parents were engaged in an ongoing custody battle. The Russell’s had divorced in 2013, which her mother says was a high-conflict case, and Maggie and her brother, who has autism, remained in the care of their mother in the familial home while the father had visitation.
But in 2016 the father was able to regain control of the home, and, under court orders, the mother was forced to move out within ten days. With no place to go and no steady job at the time, the mother had to move out and leave her son and daughter in the care of her ex-husband.
Over the subsequent years, more motions were filed by both parents for custody, DCF investigations were launched, and accusations were made by both parties. Maggie began to experience mental and emotional issues in 2020, having suicidal thoughts and was hospitalized at one point. The GAL on the case recommended Dr. Freedman to conduct psychological evaluations of the family to help determine custody.
Maggie says that she was initially hopeful upon speaking with Freedman.
“I thought he was going to help us. I really did think, because at this time we didn’t have anybody to see what my dad was really like, so we thought any help is good help. We were just thrilled to have someone help us period,” Maggie said. “I talked to him, I told him my whole story about how my dad treats me and my brother, how he paints my mom to look like a terrible person.”
“He’s [her father] ruined so many things with his stupid claims and his awful lies that people believe without even investigating, without even literally doing their job,” Maggie said.
While Freedman interviewed everyone involved, Maggie became concerned when he only spent a few minutes with her autistic brother. “Even though he’s autistic, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have an opinion, a voice.”
Maggie states that she unequivocally wanted to stay with her mother and told Freedman such, giving him a “boat load” of reasons why. When Freedman made his report to the court, he indicated that “the daughter sides with the mother,” according to Maggie.
“In this case, he had a point, I do side with her, but it’s not because of parental alienation,” Maggie said. “The reason why my mom and I had such similar things to say is because we went through the exact same things together at very similar times and we were both treated the same way. The way my dad treated my mom is the same way he treated me verbally and sometimes physically.”
Nevertheless, the court awarded primary physical custody of Maggie’s brother to her father and split custody of Maggie 50/50 with her mother. Maggie believes the court gave much weight to Freedman’s report and the fact that her father earned more money, had remarried, and had a three-bedroom house, as opposed to her mother’s two-bedroom apartment.
Maggie says she recently reported an incident of her father slapping her autistic brother in the back of the head to her therapist, who then reported it to DCF. She also said that her father slapped her in the face and took her phone – a dispute that led to her running away in 2019 and going to the police.
“The reason I ran away was because my phone was the only way I could contact my mom and my mom was the biggest reason I have my phone,” Maggie said. She says she told the police she didn’t feel safe and asked to be brought to her mother’s home. After speaking with the father, however, the police returned Maggie to her father’s house, telling Maggie her father is allowed to punish her.
“My brother and I have each other, that is the only way I can tell you – I know this might be really overdone by saying survived – but we’re literally walking on eggshells when we’re there,” Maggie said.
Maggie said that when she turns 18 in a month, she will leave her father’s house. “I’ve been planning on bailing for years. I should have been out of this house earlier, but I haven’t been because no one listened to me, my words were twisted, and people just thought I was an ungrateful brat.”
“We’re going to help get my brother out as soon as possible, too,” Maggie said. “Because he doesn’t like it any more than I do.” After reaching her 18th birthday, Maggie took to Instagram to tell her story.
This is not the only independently submitted tip about Freedman and the Connecticut Family Court system that led to a conversation with Inside Investigator.
Joanne is an attorney who has asked to remain anonymous to preserve the balance her family has finally achieved after the “chaos” of her experience in family court that, at one point, she says, had her in tears in the very same courtroom she had argued cases.
Joanne and her husband decided to divorce in 2011 after fourteen years of marriage. The marriage, she says, was not abusive and her ex-husband’s infidelity allowed an unfulfilling marriage to finally end. However, she says her husband was displaying signs of not being well mentally and it began to manifest in the form of harassment and eventually stealing from her, resulting in an arrest.
Joanne spent years returning to court to try to get the harassment to stop and trying to keep their two children with her as she had throughout the divorce process. The kids were resistant to visiting their father and his girlfriend, who had also been sending Joanne harassing texts that also resulted in an arrest.
“I just needed his behavior to stop more than anything else, and the kids weren’t comfortable being there,” Joanne said, adding that her daughter, especially, was beginning to have mental health problems related to the divorce. But Joanne’s ex was pushing for more custody, and the court ordered a psychiatric evaluation of the family by Dr. Freedman.
Joanne says Freedman ignored a timeline she had sent him of what had occurred over the past years, ignored the arrests and the kids’ problems, and accused her of lying to and manipulating the children’s school social worker as well as her own therapist in his evaluation, which recommended 50/50 custody.
“When we read the report, it was so traumatic,” Joanne said. “How did he come up with this, after all the things that are documented and everything else?”
“He said I had no insight into how badly I was contributing to the situation,” Joanne says, calling it a “disaster of a report” that was filled with factual errors, including getting names wrong, aside from what Joanne says were “misrepresentations” of what was actually said. “Basically, anybody who agreed with me or the kids that this wasn’t a good situation for the kids, they were being manipulated by me, like I’m some big master manipulator.”
“Trial was set for the next day, and they just accepted his recommendation,” Joanne said. “It was irresponsible. If you have domestic-type stuff going on and you just ignore that? I don’t understand.”
Joanne says that things continued to escalate after the court awarded 50/50 custody, with the kids constantly calling her from their father’s house upset with the dynamic in the household. Eventually, it culminated in a domestic incident between the father’s girlfriend and Joanne’s daughter resulting in police intervention but no arrests.
Following that incident, Joanne returned to court where a judge overturned the 50/50 custody arrangement, returning primary custody to Joanne. Joanne says she eventually settled the matter for less child support than she probably deserved but that it was worth it to put an end to everything.
Joanne says that things are much better now between the two households. The father takes the kids every other weekend and for dinner on Wednesdays. The divided family has reached a point of amicable co-parenting, something she had hoped for all along. However, Joanne’s experience with family court and court-ordered psychologists has left her angry and disappointed in the system itself.
“It was just a complete failure of so many systems,” Joanne said. “I wanted to sue Freedman and I probably would have had a case, but I couldn’t. It would be a medical malpractice case and in order to do that it takes a lot of upfront money, and I was broke.”
“This whole system completely destroyed me,” Joanne said. “Somehow it was my fault that I was trying to keep my kids safe.”

Like the idea of parental alienation, reunification therapy has come under increasing scrutiny in other states in recent years, particularly in Colorado, following the deaths of children who were returned to the custody of a parent accused of abuse. Moreover, reunification therapy and treatments like week-long camps attended by the child and the estranged parent under the guidance of therapists were painted as coercive and traumatizing for the child.
In 2022, federal officials passed the Keeping Children Safe from Family Violence Act, also known as Kayden’s Law, named after Kayden Mancuso, a 7-year-old girl from Pittsburgh who was murdered by her father during court-ordered custody time, even after Kayden’s mother had presented evidence to the court of the father’s domestic violence.
Under Kayden’s Law, testimony regarding abuse is limited to those who have a demonstrated expertise in that particular kind of abuse; limits the use of reunification therapy and camps without scientific proof of the treatment’s validity, effectiveness and value, and there must be ongoing training for judges and court personnel on family violence, according to the National Safe Parents Organization. However, other expert testimony — like testimony regarding parental alienation — remains unrestricted.
“Empirical research indicates that allegations of child physical and sexual abuse are regularly discounted by courts when raised in child custody cases, with fewer than one-fourth of claims that a father has committed child physical or sexual abuse believed; and where the allegedly abusive parent claimed the mother was ‘alienating’ the child,” according to the Congressional Findings listed in the law. “Scientifically unsound theories that treat mothers’ abuse allegations as likely false attempts to undermine the father are frequently applied in family court to minimize or deny parents’ and children’s reports of abuse.”
The law further specifies that there should be no removal of care from a “safe parent;” that the child cannot be cut off from contact with the safe parent, and “Any order to remediate a child’s contact resistance must address the resisted parent’s behaviors or contributions to the child’s resistance first, before ordering the preferred parent to take steps to potentially improve the child’s relationship with the parent they resist.”
However, the law, which comes with increased grant funding from the federal government, must be adopted by states. The law, being new, has not yet been taken up in Connecticut, but other states have already moved forward.
Colorado instituted Kayden’s law in 2023 following a series of articles by ProPublica that found court-appointed custody evaluators who had been accused of domestic abuse were advising the court on cases “involving allegations of domestic violence and child abuse,” and that the camps were utilizing coercive measures to force children into complying with reunification.
California followed suit, passing Piqui’s Law in 2023, instituting the same measures and named after another child, Piqui Andressian, who was murdered by his father following court-ordered custody, despite evidence of past abuse.
Danielle Pollack, policy manager for the National Family Violence Law Center, helped craft the federal legislation and says the family court’s reliance on such experts in cases where there is abuse or safety concerns involving children is “mystifying.”
“These alienation experts are frequently hired by a litigant accused of perpetrating family violence in order to help defend against those abuse claims,” Pollack wrote in an email. “As empirical research has shown, it is an effective legal strategy in child custody disputes, especially for fathers accused of abuse.”
“Furthermore, the remedy commonly recommended by such ‘alienation experts’ is also dubious, and costly: ‘reunification’ treatments or camps. Such treatments are not rooted in sound best practices, and children come away from these programs profoundly traumatized in many cases,” Pollack continued.
Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a coercive control expert and board member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has received GAL training in Connecticut and believes the court is biased toward 50/50 custody, even in cases of alleged abuse, and that court-appointed evaluators tend to tailor their opinions to meet that bias.
“When mothers claim they are worried about themselves or the safety of their children, rather than going immediately to alienation, why are we not really looking at the foundational aspects of the parent sub-system?” Cocchiola said. “This mother has every right to be worried about her safety and the safety of her children. It’s not rocket science, frankly.”
“There is an assumption that if a father wants anything to do with his children and the mother is against that, then she must be harmful, that she’s the harmful person,” Cocchiola continued. “You cannot protect the physical and psychological well-being of children if you do not understand the dynamics of abusive relationships.”
Grant Wyeth a writer out of Australia who focuses largely on foreign affairs, recently penned an essay on parental alienation and how it’s taken hold in family court systems both in the United States and worldwide.
“The family court provides a stark lesson in how institutions can easily become captured by bad ideas, and how difficult it can be to weed them out when many actors within and around institutions are professionally – and financially – invested in these ideas,” Wyeth wrote. “And although the concept had a lack of credibility within the psychological and psychiatric professions, the concept gained enough of a success rate that a market opportunity was sensed by lawyers, therapists, professional witnesses and ‘reunification specialists,’ operating in and around the family court.”
Wyeth goes on to relate witness testimony out of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in which an attorney questioned Robert Evans, Ph.D., author of The Essentials of Parental Alienation Syndrome: It’s Real, It’s Here and It Hurts. Evans testified that parental alienation is “potentially” more damaging to a child than physical abuse (broken bones), molestation, and rape.
But not all judges are so easily swayed by expert psychological opinion.
During the custody battle between Fortis Dulos and his wife Jennifer Dulos, the family court judge rejected the findings of court-appointed psychologist, Dr. Stephen Herman, who was assigned to evaluate Fotis to help determine custody of the children and had Herman’s testimony stricken from the record. Dr. Stephen Humphrey, who was also assigned to conduct psychological examinations of Fotis, found that he was “‘gregarious and confident person’ with no psychopathic tendencies,” according to the Stamford Advocate.
Both reports were reportedly favorable to Fotis, despite the court finding in 2018 that he was “an immediate and present risk” of psychological and physical harm to the children, according to a March 20, 2019, memorandum of decision. Fotis and his girlfriend Michelle Traconis were both arrested for the disappearance and presumed murder of Jennifer Dulos. Fotis later committed suicide and Traconis is currently on trial.
According to a 2018 Appellate Court decision, a family court judge in 2016 found that forcing two adolescent children involved in a contentious custody case into reunification therapy would do more damage than good, and was essentially punishing the children for not wanting to visit with their father, despite recommendations from the expert witness in psychology and family reunification.
“Ordering their attendance at the program would punish these innocent teenagers for the inability of their parents to become fully functioning and emotionally forgiving adults who could leave their personal war and hatred behind,” the court decision said. “The court finds that ordering attendance at the Building Bridges program, or the less intensive Overcoming Barriers program, to be a draconian solution in these unusual circumstances. Forced attendance at either program would mete out the blame and punishment [the defendant] wishes to impose on [the plaintiff] on his children. The court declines to take this shortsighted step.”
In 2007, Connecticut Department of Correction (DOC) employee Daniel Swoverland sent a suicide note via text to his ex-girlfriend from his 8-year-old daughter’s phone saying their bodies could be recovered at a boat launch.
Police were immediately alerted. They quickly discovered that Swoverland had recently purchased a handgun and his daughter was not in school. Swoverland was found after he crashed his car, with his daughter inside, after having ingested a large amount of medication. The handgun was also found in the vehicle. A search of Swoverland’s home found another chilling suicide note. Swoverland was arrested and part of his sentence included a restraining order barring contact with his daughter.
In 2011, Swoverland sought to remove the restraining order. Swoverland’s therapist, Lynn Johnson, testified in support of reunification, stating that his actions were entirely due to the medication, and she believed he presented no danger to his daughter. Johnson’s opinion was based not only on her therapeutic sessions with Swoverland but also on a report by Dr. Freedman. Johnson had not spoken to either the daughter or her therapist, according to the court decision.
Both Johnson and Freedman testified that reunification between Swoverland and his daughter should begin immediately. Freedman indicated that Swoverland was a “fun loving guy,” who had been “in a terrible state,” on the day of the incident but did not believe he posed a danger.
The court disagreed and cast doubt on the opinion of both Johnson and Freedman. “Ms. Johnson’s opinion as to the lack of risks involved and what is in the best interest of the child appears tarnished to this court. This affects the Court’s assessment of her credibility,” wrote Superior Court Judge D’Addabbo in 2011. “These mental health experts’ manner and approach to these opinions and recommendations, including their assessment of the event, cause the Court pause when assessing their opinions.”
This is not to say that abuse allegations are always swept under the rug in favor of reunification when a claim of parental alienation is made. According to available online cases, Dr. Freedman has in the past rejected alienation claims because the estranged parent has taken no accountability for their actions and has no desire to reform, but continued to recommend professional reunification services.
In a 2022 family court decision, a father with bipolar disorder who was required to have supervised visits with his children sought to modify the visitation agreement and hired Dr. Freedman to provide analysis. Freedman determined that the father was not yet ready for unsupervised access to the children and needed further work on parenting skills, however, the judge indicates that Freedman took a negative view of the mother despite never having met with her.
“In his report, Dr. Freedman makes numerous references to his negative impressions about the behavior and attitudes of the mother,” wrote Judge Trial Referee Constance L. Epstein. “Mr. Freedman, however, has never met, interviewed, or even attempted to talk to mother, and quite clearly has chosen to adopt only father’s descriptions of mother’s actions and parental abilities. Consequently, and unfortunately, Mr. Freedman relies on father’s accounts of mother to imply that mother may be the cause of some of the obstacles to father’s ability to parent, a conclusion with which the court does not agree.”
“There is absolutely nothing in Dr. Freedman’s report, or in his testimony, that supports a change in the need for supervision of father’s parenting time,” Epstein concluded.

During her cross-examination of Dr. Freedman, Casey asked if he had recently undergone any training on domestic violence and child abuse. Freedman said that he has vast experience in dealing with families that have experienced domestic violence and child abuse but had not received any recent training.
He also commented that if she had put as much effort into getting the children to his office as she did preparing her defense, they probably would not all be in this situation.
Casey’s ex-husband’s attorney argued that Casey has clearly not cooperated with court-ordered reunification therapy with Dr. Freedman and because summer had already passed, the children should spend Christmas vacation with their father with no contact with Casey for reunification purposes, and that waiting for the children to be “ready” allows for no timeframe because dealing with PTSD could take years.
“It’s not his [Dr. Freedman’s] job to get the children to his office, it’s the parent’s job,” the attorney said. “There was seven months of quiet and no appointments scheduled, I’m not sure how that shows that there was effort to move the reunification forward, how it shows there was a complete effort to cooperate with Dr. Freedman to get the boys to his office.”
“All we’re asking for, your honor, is that the intent of [the Judge’s] order that reunification between these two young boys and their father actually happen. If [Casey] cannot get the boys to Freedman’s office, we have to start looking at other options… a prolonged period of time with [the father] with no contact from [Casey] to allow them to solidify their relationship.”
“The other options have been explored through the divorce process. Dr. Freedman was court-ordered to provide this,” the attorney argued. “Waiting for the boys to be quote-unquote ready or finished with trauma therapy, that is a never-ending cycle that could go years and years. That’s not a realistic solution to this problem.”
Casey continued to argue that Freedman has not reached out to the children’s therapists, nor the last two reunification therapists, relying instead on a conversation he had with the first reunification therapist who worked with the children prior to a DCF substantiation of abuse and a violation of a protective order by her ex-husband.
Casey argued that she has never been allowed to select a provider in her case, from the GAL to Dr. Freedman, saying she preferred an organization like The Village or the Wheeler Clinic that would assign a therapist and therefore have no potential for biases.
At one point, Casey breaks down in frustration.
“Your honor, you don’t understand, as a victim of domestic violence, when I started my case, I was told not to bring up domestic violence to the court because it automatically becomes something against women. This is what women are fighting everywhere,” Casey said.
“We are told all the time, do not bring up domestic violence because it will get used against you. They will try to make you look like this. Women lose custody of children at an alarming rate when men claim parental alienation,” Casey said. “I’m at the point where if you’re not willing to talk with the therapists and you’re not willing to work with them, how is that what’s in the best interest of the children?”
Several months later, the judge issued his ruling. Casey was not held in contempt of court, but reunification therapy would proceed with Dr. Freedman as she had not proven any inappropriate or unethical conduct on his part. Casey was to take “all reasonable measures” to ensure the children participate in reunification therapy.
In late January of this year, a reunification appointment was set. However, contrary to Freedman’s previous reunification plan and testimony that he would meet with the children alone before introducing their father to the sessions, the first meeting would include their father, according to emails.
The children did not respond well to news of the upcoming session and a mobile crisis unit was called to the school when Casey tried to pick them up from school for the meeting. Casey was then called back into court on another motion for contempt and change of custody. She has since filed a motion to modify the reunification orders and has filed a HIPAA complaint against Freedman for sharing her emails.




As a mother who been through Connecticut family court system. Where evidence of the reason for estranged relationship was kept from family court. The GAL was waiting in the hallway to be appointed. I was never given a choice. The GAL had a significant conflict of interest. I was threatened for bringing it up. Being uncooperative. The GAL pushed a psychologist on the case without an evaluation. Attended and participated in the “reunification therapy”. At no point where any parenting addressed. The entire focus was on the child being forced into spending time with the father. These family courts are not designed to ” best interest” . They are designed to force agreements. I was declined any written information from the psychologist. There are no written GaL reports. Never given a bill for hours from the GaL. Just cashed checks copies. The complaints I have filled in Connecticut have gone no where. There are so many parents with stories about family court. Forced reunification therapy. Ending in disaster. Poor out comes. Financial draining. Which in my own personal life was one sided with a judge thinking this is ok. These courts are a mess. Children are not being protected. Much awareness has been made public. Bias agreement and funding for the state using gatekeeper/alienation claims. People, especially women have been complaining about the process of family court. Bias and psychologist practice. Attorney/ practice and poor ethics. Yet here we are continuing to read these stories. Where is the benefit to children in Connecticut? There is none. The benefit is ringing up large bills. Out comes for more federal funding for the fatherhood initiative. Using parental alienation and gatekeeper. Even if you want for “therapy” and counseling to assist in the process. Reunification therapy leads to more arguments racking up legal bills. These services are NOT child centered. They are used to weaponize cases. Drain one party financially. Forced to enter an agreement that is not in the childs best interest. For court and state funding statistics. If you don’t agree with the demands you are punished by the court. THE ENTIRE SYSTEM IS A MESS. Doesn’t look to be getting cleaned up.
These stories are just a few examples of the nightmare cases in Connecticut’s broken and corrupt ‘family’ court system impacting and destroying mothers, fathers and their families.
Which parents have been testifying about at the Legislative Office Building for over 20 years. It all falls on deaf ears. Because of the politics of profit and greed. Because divorce attorneys and the state enrich themselves from promoting conflict.
Many of these situations would not be if our state followed others and made shared and equal parenting the norm and standard, absent a finding of abuse in a court of evidence and law, which our ‘family’ court are not.
And if we enacted penalties against parents and their attorneys who commit fraud and perjury before the court.
We can not get Connecticut to engage in transparency. People have pressed fraud and perjury and suppression of evidence. It’s ignored and allowed to continue. It’s time to hold the publicly elected officials accountable for allowing this in their state.
Change will never happen until “oversight” is taken out of the hands of the attorney-packed Judiciary Committee.
In 2019, parents in this state rallied to protest the reappointment of Jane Emons, a horrific and tyrannical “family” court judge who was known for standing up and screaming at parents in her courtroom.
She had eleven (11) federal lawsuits filed against her. Which the state and taxpayers had to defend against.
In spite of dozens of parent testimonies about her judicial abuses of power, Ms. Emons sailed out of the Judiciary Committee by a vote of 30-3.
Further, note, in 2019 Judge Bozzuto openly testified before the Judiciary Committee that ‘her family courts’ were not equipped to handle cases of abuse or neglect because ‘her family courts’ didn’t have the resources other state agencies like DCF have.
So why do ‘her family courts’ keep pretending they can address these cases and claims, resulting in disasters like the Dulos case when the “family” courts and divorce attorneys get involved?
“Family” courts are not courts of evidence or law, they are solely courts of equity. Courts where the parent who tells the greatest lie, or pays the most, often ‘wins.’
Any time a claim of abuse or neglect is made in a ‘family’ court the judge should immediately stop proceedings and refer the claim to local police or a prosecutor to first establish probable cause.
If there is none, there should be penalties imposed and the parents and attorneys who knowingly presenting the false claims before the court.
Someone explain why this should not be.
If you are following along with the criminal story. There is a pattern also immerging in the investigation of sexual assault and abuse reported to police and DCF. There is a push to decrease the appearance of violent crimes. There are problems involving the entire court system and related agencies with reporting crimes. The false Utopia created. With savings to the prosecution of crimes and saving on incarceration cost. The state of Connecticut claims to have done something magnificent with crime in the last few decades. Once in the red not being able to make state retirement and benefits. Now has a surplus of money. The Waterbury police department was highlighted in dateline for a rape case. Uconn 2016 most reported rapes on a college campuses. It’s an multifaceted problem with in the state. The incident in the Bloomfield police department involving family court cases. Many issues. Little investigation and accountability in Connecticut.
If anyone has dealt with “Dr.” Freedman or any other unethical psychologist/reunification therapist or evaluator please report them to DPH. If you’ve dealt with “Dr.” Freedman please email me at Caseysb.CPM@gmail.com. Any women battling in family court in Connecticut please join Connecticut Protective Moms.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think when I escaped the hell I was living with my ex that’d the abuse I’d endure would be what it is in family court. Don’t get me wrong living free from the fear of being unalived daily is far better. However I shouldn’t live in fear of my children being taken and continually abused by that same man. Especially when they witnessed him threaten to kill me, then attempt to make good on those threats and they reported abuse firsthand with a forensic interview confirming such.
Dr. Freedman is not alone.
The smoking gun is the membership of the former AFCC in this state.
Your case should have been referred to a criminal court.
I agree fully, he was arrested and I had 4 protective orders for 2.5 years which he had violated repeatedly, yet our lovely state gives criminals chance after chance. So he did his little program, showed no reform and was considered rehabilitated. It’s a joke. We need tougher laws on these criminals. And the corrupt evaluators should be reported and prosecuted to the fullest as well.
I have had sole custody of my daughter since 2006. There was never a visitation order and, reunification has never been brought up. My ex has accumulated approximately Twenty-Seven Thousand dollars of Child support arrears. This may sound typical of many cases but, where my predicament differs is that I am a Father.
Whenever I have brought forth contempt proceedings, I am treated with hostility and animosity by court staff and CT Support Enforcement Services; despite their own malfeasance & nonfeasance being the cause of these arrears.
If the situation were reversed and, I was the non-custodial parent, where would I be?
The country is $113.5 billion dollars in child support arrears. It’s costing money to go after people and get it. It would appear that they are not happy about going after it. Many having complaints on the child support enforcement office.
In some states estimates are that upwards of 30% of the men sitting in their jails are there for “child support’ payments they can never hope to pay (in part, because they’re sitting in jails and/or have their licenses suspended.) Men being deliberately prevented from equally caring and providing for their own children.
To perpetuate the welfare state and to protect flows of millions of dollars of federal SSA Title-IV D money into state coffers.
There is a long history of the state of Connecticut not investigating abuse. Hiding evidence in family court. There are multiple cases of sexual assault, abuse and other crimes. There is a financial incentive to discredit children and women in CT. 50/50 is not the answer. Prosecution of curruption, fraud and medical malpractice. Stop the federal funding to a gender. We need the state of Connecticut to stop hiding what is happening in family court. We need to remove the Seniors, governor and legislators allowing this to happen. Publicly elected officials should be answering to the people who are greatly affected by the lack of accountability and integrity running the Connecticut family court system.
In CT, the man who runs Family Relations is also the same person who runs the Batterer Intervention program. His wife runs the New England Fatherhood Rights Conferences. Is that not a conflict of interest?
And where are the Childhood Rights Conferences? They are the ones who suffer the most. The time has come to stop looking away. We need accountability. We need safety!
The data says that domestic violence cases account for less than 33% of custody disputes. This logic that you propose says to persecute the majority in order to save the minority. There are other ways to ensure domestic violence victims get their justice besides denying good parents access to their children and giving the government power over those children while taking away parental rights. I know this as a DV victim as a child as well as adult. You mentioned financial incentive to turn the other way, but that’s not the case. In fact, the domestic violence groups get quite a bit of funding and the state gets funding for ordering child support alimony. The true benefactors are those that keep the fires of conflict burning. We need to start from a place of equity and access to the child unless unwillingness, being an unfit parent or abuse is proven. This would not only decrease the traffic in Family Court, but also very likely decreased many of societal woes as our children will grow up emotionally, intelligent with two loving parents, even if they are no longer together. Follow the financial incentives and you’ll almost always find out who the aggressor is. The state and the system and alienating parents want money while alienated parents only want to be with her child . We can do better CT.
Labeled a discruntaled litigant who didn’t loose custody. Locked out of court system through fear and intimidation. 2014 choice of gal never advised of. With the gal lurking in the hall awaiting appointment. Significant conflict of interest. Pushed psychologist and GaL engaged in forced reunification therapy. There is no attempt to address parenting issues. They are attempting to force agreements because of the fatherhood funding. Forced into unfair agreements and financially disadvantage. The Connecticut family court system is a mess. Nothing appears to be done to fix it. Evidence is not admitting into court. The courts are pushing reunification therapy and agreements not in the best interest of children. State funding through the federal welfare reform act. Great financial insensitive to attorneys to convolute these cases. No oversight for the psychologist or Attorneys. Judges looking the other way. , not paying attention. No change after years of litigants complaining. to the state of Connecticut politicians.
The public defender office. Norm Pattis Blog. Racial privilege. Accusing Bosses of being racist. The public defender’s office has been playing the gender card for years. Since the federal funding for the welfare reform act and fatherhood initiative and the justice reform. Reporting of reduced crime in Connecticut. Women have been labeled as liars, gatekeepers , alienators and some how mentally altered when women report sexual assault or forms of abuse. The public defenders office runs and houses the children’s welfare attorneys. GALs and AMCs. Hundreds of lawyers in the commission are hiding under their desks after 5 commissioners resigned after alligations of racism. Meanwhile several hundred women are standing before judicial employees accused of malicious Mommy syndrome. Inflated and perpetuated by Attorneys from the public defender’s office. Attorney general William Tong hires and outside Attorney to investigate the situation at the public defenders office. Despite UN reports on the use of parental alienation in family court. William Tong dinning in Connecticut restaurants without a second thought to hundreds of women complaining. Cunha complained of discrimination among the all Jewish family court professionals in the Ambrose and Riorden matter. Quickly disbarred for antisemitism with out a hearing. Connecticut is playing a lot of cards. Only to be investigated if you represent gender bias funding, fit a select group funds protect , reduce prosecution cost and incarceration cost to the state. Where is the investigation for and men not hiding under a desk? In the direct firing line in front of the family court bench. Is there equaity in the state of Connecticut judicial system? If there is I can’t see it.
A window blows out of a 737 max airplane, and the government grounds over 700 planes to see why it happened and to prevent it from happening again. Every day in family courts across the U.S. children are being forced into “reunification” with abusive parents and put at risk mentally and physically…but no one stops to examine why or how it is happening. Women and children die every day in our country and the chaotic madness of harmful litigation abuse and continued coercive control of victims, moms and their children, continues. Stop the madness. Thanks so much to Marc Fitch and Connecticut Inside Investigator for the deep dive, part 2 , of the CT family court system and why it needs to be he3ld accountable and regulated…just like the airlines industry!
The Parental Alienation page on Facebook neared over 30,000 members. Someone tell us all of these parents were making up their experiences. The problems in our “family” courts equally impact mothers, fathers, children and their families. The issue should not be co-opted by a very small group presenting only one side of the issue.
Because that’s very dangerous and has led to disastrous knee-jerk and poorly thought-out legislation… like Jennifer’s Law.
How many from Connecticut? How many women where accused of parental alienation? What is appearing to be a federally funded Witch hunt sweeping the nation.
Thank you for this article. It sounds like Bruce Freedman should not be used for court. This issue is happening everywhere and it’s a public health crisis for children
The U.S. is home to more single parent households than any other country on the planet. The suicide rate for divorced men is ten times (10x) the national average. The statistics of the life outcomes of children raised without a father figure in their lives are very clear. The number of parents and families literally bankrupted and who have their lives and careers destroyed is in the millions.
You’re absolutely correct. This is a major national healthcare crisis, hidden in plain sight.
Financial responsibility is a part of parenting for both parents. Women are sitting in jail cells too.
My case started with the father’s family in 1977, Milot v. Milot. The mother denied the father’s contact with their children. The son of that family grew up, got married, and is now denying his children all contact with a loving mother, and the court is again allowing the abuse of the children. My case is in the appeals process.
We have a gentleman here in CT whose grandfather was kept from seeing his father, his father was kept from seeing him and he is being denied any access to his daughter (while paying thousands in “support” for a child he is willing and able to equally provide and care for.)
Not one of them ever found guilty of any crime.
Does this make any sense?
This is nothing more than state sanctioned child abuse, based on the politics of profit and greed.
i agree with earlier comment that shared parenting shuld be presumed if no other issues like violence etc. that would solve a lot of this. but why does this seem always drawn on gender lines? Alienation can happen to both sides and that ultimately should never happen. why is it always seem to be framed as the women and children need protecting and not the fathers and children? I think the courts are cruel to both sides not just mothers. in my own case my kid many many years later as an adult came to me and told that her mother actively alienated and lied. I knew it was the case but could not prove and did not have the money to fight it. this is a no win situation because there are going to be situations where people use the alienation term as a weapon but then what if its real? how do you help the actual suffering parent
The birth of a really bad social experiment. The welfare reform act, followed by the AFCC. The use of parental alienation. Deep rooted in the fatherhood/men’s rights movement. Reunification therapy and twisting the “parental estrangement. The definition of parental alienation is a broad term that is applied to all cases. Evidence of maltreatment or not. Children are isolated from the safe parent. We have AFCC members stating protection is worse than sexual abuse. A widely excepted belief in the AFCC community. Cheers and applause in the video. The reunification is to alter perception of mal treatment. Physical, psychological and sexual at times. It is obvious that an imbalance in child support obligations is present in family court system. There is no real effort to sort out if abuse is uccuring. The family courts are funded, legislated and focus on the engagement of father’s. Much research if flowed bias and discriminate. The fatherhood funding given through government funding are equipped with media funding. Many articles and so called leaders media is focused on negative gender profiling of women. Any children with issues or report abuse are forced into relationships . It’s happening to some father’s as well. The old information on reunification therapy when consider rare is far different than is being applied. False alligations of all types are a real problem. The big complaint is the federal fuel that is biasing the state it’s self. Fueling abusive fathers with funding. The courts and MOU partners don’t seem to care. With out the cooperation of the state of Connecticut to take a complete and indept investigation with real consequences we can not figure it out. There is what appears to be fraud being used in family court system cases. Using federal funding from the fatherhood initiative. There is no domestic violence money paying for court attorney, gals, evaluation and ” reunification therapy” . Children old enough to speak up are reporting the therapy is not addressing the abusive parents behavior, but attempting to change the childs perception. Mine personally went through it. I experienced it. The therapy doesn’t address problem. It’s reported across the board from most people. The abusive parents are given a free pass to behave poorly to the divorcing spouses and the children. Children are blamed for the conflict. Hitting, neglect, substance abuse is ignored ECT. We got real problems in Connecticut family court. Surrounding federal funding and forcing of agreements for statistical out comes. Children are expensive and child support is arrears are ignored. There are cases of father’s denying the child. Paternity is established. The father still wants nothing to do with the child. Neglect the judges are telling them they can come back anytime for access. Absent father receiving custody after several years of neglect. These children don’t trust these absent father. The judges rip there lives apart and transfer custody because of the initiative. The mothers are errased from the childs life. Abandonment is rewarded. Mothers who raised these children are punished by the cruel and inhumane judges for concern. The absentee father is suddenly a hero. This happens on the daily to women because of the funding. If you abandon an animal the courts don’t order it back to you. Animals better protected than humans children in the court system.
50-50 is not the answer because it is incentivized by gender. Why is it considered a loss for women and a win for men when in reality it’s what’s in the best interest of the children. Think about that for a moment.
Federalism and the discrimination against women. It’s effecting the family court and criminal courts. The attempt to legalize emotional, psychological, sexual and physical abuse. Calling it a public health care crisis. Not a crime. Federalism doesn’t take children in to consideration.
Setting the standard to be equal and shared parenting from the start is a million times better than the current system. Which forces each parent to ‘prove’ they are the better one to a stranger in robes (often a sociopath in robes….) based on absolutely nothing more than a few hours of testimony (and lies.) Bankrupting them in the process. Does this make any sense to anyone?
Both parents should be deemed to be equally fit, absent a finding of abuse in a court of evidence and law. Which ‘family’ courts are not.
And the evidence is clear. In every state that has adopted this as a standard (I believe 11 so far) the average length and cost of custody cases has dropped dramatically. Because their court systems are no longer designed and setup to promote and encourage conflict, or to reward it.
Thank you. I second this. As someone who constantly worries what the courts would do if the absent father suddenly decided he wants to be a part of his child’s life after years of being mostly absent — not by alienation, but by choice. But I know that Connecticut (and many other states) tend to favor the fathers, as I have seen this big movement against mothers.
I completely agree with this opponent! I gave birth to a son in Ukraine and raised him until he was 6.5 years old in Ukraine. Came here, filed for divorce and my child was taken away. GAL wrote that in the best case, she found out to give away her ex-child, although he is not the biological father and participated in raising him 3 times a year for 2 weeks when he arrived, and also suffers from mental bipolar disorder and 3 official suicides due to disability, but has a million and generously paid child support to Sharon’s lawyer and expensive lawyer Richard Roychelles West Hartford. Corruption solves everything. I lost my son, although I have 3 diplomas, worked in the government and have no bad habits.
– Dan Swoverland currently has kids from another marriage and a healthy relationship with them. He DID have a bad side affect to medication. Whether that merits ordering reunification is another matter. His daughter may never feel safe with him ever again.
– Crime statistics clearly show Mothers kill more offspring than fathers. Granted the demographics are such that these incidents occur more often with single, young, poorly educated, financially poor moms. But it shows that any parent is sadly capable of killing their children under certain circumstances.
– Agree that Humphrey and Freedman are tools of the system. Complaining to the DPh as one person stated is a waste of time. DPH does not have the staff to investigate mental health cases except for ones involving physical abuse to the patient.
– Easy to write stories about problems in the courts. I could tell you a hundred of them. Peter can tell you another 100 and so could Betsy. Books have been written about them. What is the solution though ??
Good question. The problem is that we have allowed our “family” courts to spin out of control and become little more than money making machines for the $60B Divorce Industry, a small number of well-connected state “family” court actors, and the judges who used to be divorce attorneys and GALs lining their pockets.
Our “family” courts are the only courts that do not inform of us of our rights when we enter them. Because they want us to believe we have no rights and are subject to the whims of the state. We do and are not. We all have federally recognized parental rights and fundamental rights and need to start citing them frequently and often. And file federal lawsuits when they are violated.
About ten years ago, the Chief Justice of Canada said her country’s “family” courts were “beyond the point of simple repair” and needed to be replaced by “something else.” That’s where we are in this state as well.
The other option is to avoid “family” court altogether. And use one of the new and true mediation services appearing across the country and in our state.
Divorce is not ideal but sometimes necessary. It’s not the single parent household that is the problem. Several people are able to manage co parenting. It is the abuse cases and problem cases. Single parent household can be managed. Stop stigmatizing single parents. People should not be forced into marriage. There is an increase in women forced to live with an abuser . Children don’t thrive in dysfunctional household. Single parent is not ideal stop criminalizing it.
There are many men forced to live with an abusive FEMALE abuser but unfortunately due to a very biased system men stay due to consequences and detriment of absurd alimony ( independent, gender equality…aren’t we equal?) child support based on antiquated social norms and the high prevalence of false allegations for advantage in financial orders , child custody AND support
Let’s not forget how men’s reputations are destroyed but woman’s actions are justified ???? Hummmmm
Children don’t thrive in a distorted reality based on entitlement
Currently the fastest growing single parent household are fathers. Due to parental alienation claims. If the court of equaity would decide the divorce. Then custody the abused individual could be free to get housing. The courts often prolonging toxic living arrangements. The courts are not pro mothers. Women’s reputation are also being tarnished. Many reputation are built on actual factual information and evidence presented to the court. Many children altered reality is the result of the therapeutic intervention. Child support is not an entitled issue for women. It a nessesity of the children. If the child are not being feed, clothed and cared for that’s another matter. Man or women take care of your children. It’s that simple. We are all flustered by false alligations. The focus of best interest is the focus of these articles. Many men and women have had to overcome the stigma the courts have placed upon them. An investigation is needed.
I will never understand the women that get upset when Father’s want more time with their kids.
Why is 50/50 a win for Dads and a loss for Moms??? why do woman go ballistic on this equality issue?
A normal Dad spending time with father’s is not the issue. The problem is abuse. Please reread the article.
This is Joan kloth Zinard
The bias that is occurring is disgusting. Freedman has no right to be practicing ! Everyone who has had to use him needs to report him. He is causing real damage to these children
Stakeholder. The financial driven state projects are all leading back to federal funding . The continued forced use of psychologist that don’t follow the eithical guidelines established for the profession. A lack of education in a subject matter you are evaluating or treating. Many of the persons and AFCC members have limited education that is out dated and focusing on one subject matter. Parental alienation. Sighting UFO s a rare accurance hourly in family court. Appearing to generate significant financial insensitive to “court professionals”. Starting with the fatherhood initiative ” gatekeeper”. Much federal funding including media compain. Targeting women and mothers as the problem in high conflict cases. There is a lot of negative media towards women in general. The violent crimes are going swept under the rug. Starting to emerge and beginning to where crimes are reported. Discourage people from coming forward. The fastest way to loose a custody case is to report what is really happening. DCF having partnered with the fatherhood initiative. It’s unfortunately all lumped together. Leading to the illusion that Connecticut is reducing crime and resolving custody agreements through holding children financially ransom. Quickly removing them from the person reporting as punishment. It’s a complex problem that started in the state of Connecticut with the enactment of the federal welfare reform act and fatherhood initiative.
We need an outside agency. We need non stakeholders to investigate the family court fiasco. The state must not be involved. We need a balanced team. We need real people along side of real psychologist. A balance of men and women. The federal inspector general, the FBI outside of the Connecticut branch. We need to have people people of all colors and religion who are not invested in a ” culture” . Martinez license suspended during his fatel accident. The man was heated about DCF and child welfare. . I think he is rolling over in his grave of what is happening in Connecticut.
Commonsense 101: If this was an intact family that did not want to get divorced, the entire family would be in therapy to work through this issues. In fact, a one time incident does not make a person bad. There is no such thing as a Perfect Parent. If there was, we would not have all of the resources that we have. We would have one resource the perfect parent. Parents make mistakes because there is no real book on how to be a parent. So if a parent say, dropped a bowling ball on a family members foot, this does not mean that they did it on purpose or that they would do it again.
Family Courts are not mental health professionals, nor do they have degrees in mental health. Furthermore, it take someone how is specially trained to work with families.
I say this because I am still with my husband, despite an anger incident with him 6 months ago. This incident was due to a medical condition that caused him to be more aggressive and angry. In fact, this illness is considered a disability. It is a constitutional violation to discriminate against anyone who has a disability, especially, if that disability has a solution, such as in my husband’s case.
In addition, if a parent did not bring a child to the pediatrician because they thought the diaper rash would resolve on it’s own, but it was actually more involved, they would not be charged with neglect. This would be a learning lesson that this type of rash needs more attention. It would not be grounds to block that parents relationship with their children.
I cannot tell you how many cases I have were parents will nitpick or forget that just because they hates each other, does not mean the children have to hate one of their parents. If there is safety concerns, that is what Therapuetic Supervised Visitation is for. That is what anger management classes are for. This is what parenting classes are for. This is what learning how to be a parent with proper borders and boundaries is for.
When we go after a parent and remove custody for a single incident or even for several, reality, it would be better to have shared joint custody so the children have at least a 50% chance of seeing what a normal family life is, than ending up in a situation with one parent who might actually not be a great role model. Children should be taught how to properly manage themselves around toxic as they will meet them through out their entire life. If we don’t give them the ability to have these skills, their executive functioning skills become compromised and they do not fair well as adults.
Science has backed this up with 100’s of studies and research. We need to do better for our children so that they can become normal adults with all the skills they need to navigate the narcissistic personalities that they will be faced with in the real world. Taking a parental relationship from them that may not be the most perfect relationship, does not teach this. It actually avoids the lessons and how to address narcissistic personalities.
This is Joan kloth Zinard
An abuser that is manipulating family court doesn’t see the error in their ways. “Family therapy” only works if the parties are invested. These forced therapies occuring the family court are to change a perspective on abuse, not actually addressing it. The point being of the article is the complete absence of Child Welfare and best interest. The courts consideration is only being based on equity. Abuse is appearing to be legally supported in the state of Connecticut. Death and long term repercussions. Continuing the cycle of abuse. The use of parental alienation and funding to engage in financial domestic abuse to subdue abuse victims. Common sense would see that it’s not working. The courts are leading to a gaint mess. These families are not intact. Because abuse has gone beyond. The courts are prolonging it with great financial gain to the legal community and MOU partners with unlimited funding.
I am an alienator. You know me well. You lived with me once and you witnessed my behavior patterns but you did not spend time studying and internalizing them. I know your behavior patterns better than you know them yourself. I know how to measure you, test you and control you. I know what your hooks are and I know that the depth of the love for your children is a weakness I can exploit. I am an emotional terrorist. I will terrify you into submission. You will do as I tell you to do, if you do not, I will take your children away.
I am an alienator, you didn’t notice that when we lived together but I began my work long before we went our separate ways. I created fissures and fractures within our family and I managed and manipulated reality, though for a long time you did not notice that.
I am an alienator, at times in the past you felt a chill wind blow through you when my moods changed as I raged and then sweet talked you to smooth the ripples in your growing awareness. My mind is distorted but the projection of shadows causes you to believe it is yours which has failed you. Eventually you came to believe that it was you and not I who was crazy. You shivered as I turned down the gas light.
When you appeal to the outside world for assistance I will turn my most charming face to the sun and open my arms wide and beseech them to believe that I only want the best for my children. I will widen my eyes and up turn my palms and say ‘what can I do when they don’t want to see you’ and suck into my airspace all those who attempt to bring change to the lives of the weapons I know I can use.
My children are assets, collateral, extensions of plans that I make to wreak my revenge upon people who challenge my views or attempt to remove the control that I have in my life.
My children are satellites orbiting sunshine coming only from me – you could never compete with the warmth that I wind around each of their hearts so that only my love is enough; making yours surplus, not needed, discarded like clothes that you bought and I won’t let them wear.
I am all that they need.
You are not.
When our love ended my rage recruited our children to a campaign of revenge that joins us together against you.
In my mind your betrayal awakened the traumas of people long dead and ignited the fuse that lead to the bomb that blew up our lives. Now, the souls of our children are hostage to wrongs which come howling from hell and you are helpless to hold back the tide which will sweep you and they to the death that is living with losing your children whilst they are still breathing. Your loss not mine which you and not I will have to survive.
Sometimes you mirror me, two perfect projections that weave webs of destruction that sever our children in two, one side light, one side dark, you there in the shadows.
But mostly it is because I cannot see my behaviours, I am blind to the sight of myself in the mirror. The only reflection I need is the love of my children to feed me and give me a sense of my self which I lost even before I was born.
I am the alienator, annihilator, terminator. My aim is to end, by fair means or foul, your place in the hearts and the lives of your children.
I am easily spotted by those who know me but invisible to those who do not. You will spend your time, your energy and money telling them I am behind this whilst I smile and continue to shred the trust our children once held in you. I am an alienator even when I do not know it and the failure to see the shadows I cast in the projections I throw onto you, is the fault of a system so blinded by bias it is frozen like the minds of our children, the children being harmed right under the noses of those who should know how to help them but sadly, do not.
In the plain sight of you and of them, the lives of the children you love are stolen, erased and extinguished.
And your anguish and pain are the gifts that I treasure.
And your suffering compensates for the things I perceive you to have done.
And whilst chaos reigns and the system colludes with my delusions, the power I seek remains mine.
Along with the children.
Whose eyes are wide open but able to see nothing at all.
Article by Karen Woodall
Before you even touch questionable parental alienation , you need to fix the parameters for DV and TRO’s so a parent is not handcuffed, because the utilization of the criminal system does affect the Family Court system from the get go. False allegations are running rampant in the divorce industry because the loophole is to crush the person in the criminal system to advance in Family Court with custody and financial gain. Attorneys admit they coach their clients! Giving ample time for the grooming process on children depicting one parent is all bad and the other parent all good That’s how the insidious deterioration of parent child relationship occurs with one parent having control grooming and brainwashing the child.
You make false allegations, a punishable crime, equivalent, to the crime claimed you see how quickly things will change you have to start from the beginning you can’t Band-Aid the issue and the Corrupt Attorneys have to be disbarred.
Brainwashing Techniques used by Alienating Parents
“Programming” and “Brainwashing” are two terms used by Dr. Stanley Clawar and Brynne Rivlin [1] to describe the methods and techniques used by alienating parents to manipulate their children into rejecting and/or hating the target parent. According to Clawar & Rivlin (2013), “programming and brainwashing is a process (intentional and unintentional) whereby a parent … attempts to limit, damage, and interfere with the love, contact, and image of the target parent” (p. 9). In their 25-year study of 1000 divorced/separated families commissioned by the American Bar Association, they identified 12 brainwashing techniques used by alienating parents (Clawar & Rivlin, 2013, pp. 31-63);
Denial-of-Existence Technique ~ One of the basic techniques parents use to assault the character of the other parent is to deny or not acknowledge the social existence of the other parent. The manner of denial can vary greatly. One common technique is simply never to talk about the other parent. By excluding any discussion of the other parent or ignoring the topic when raised by the child, the brainwashing parent can send a subtle message to the child that the other parent is not significant. He or she does not exist in our conversation, and therefore, he or she does not, in social terms, exist.
The “Who, Me?” Technique ~ A subtle but powerful technique is to make indirect attacks on the other parent. When questioned about such attacks, the brainwashing parent will say, “Who, me?” The programmer indicates that he or she meant no such thing and that the listener or child was certainly misinterpreting. The list of indirect attacks is infinite, but the basic pattern is that the programmer/brainwasher attacks something about the character, lifestyle, past, present, or future of the target parent.
Middle-Man Technique ~ By speaking to the child about issues that should be first discussed with the other parent, the programmer/brainwasher can compromise and/or damage the child’s relationship with or image of the target parent. For instance, discussing time-schedule arrangements by asking questions such as, “Do you think you would like to have more time with Mom?” often places the child in the middle. The pressure on the child is to make a choice in front of an inquiring parent.
Circumstantial Technique ~ By manipulating, changing, rearranging, and commenting on time, the programming parent tries to gain dominance in the eyes of the children. “Your mother’s always late for delivery and pickup. I wonder if she would be late for her own funeral.” The other parent told her children, “He’s always early for pickup, but late for delivery.” These parents are attacking character by discussing punctuality. Not informing the other parent of school dates, plays, conferences, ceremonies, awards, sporting events, and the like is a way of signifying to the children that the other parent lacks importance.
“I Don’t Know What’s Wrong with Him” Technique ~ Many parents have developed a technique whereby they create and/or exaggerate differences between themselves and the other parent in front of the children. A behavioral pattern is that arguments develop at the time of pickup and delivery of the children. Often the initial phase of the conversation is polite and appropriate. If the conversation goes on beyond a certain point, however, the brainwashing parent might instigate an argument by using a phrase or presenting an idea that he or she consciously or unconsciously knows will incite the other parent.
Ally Technique ~ Attempting to get the children to side with one parent against the other occurs both in and outside of marriage. At the time of separation, divorce, or custody conflict, however, the attempt to ally the children is stronger. An example would be asking the children direct questions such as, “Don’t you think your mother is wrong to try to get all the money she can from us?” Other such questions are “You’re a sensitive child—do you think it’s fair for a father to have all that money? He just bought himself a new car and a house—look at how we have to live.”
Morality Technique ~ Programming behaviors often include moral judgments against the target parent concerning his/her values, lifestyle, choice of friends, successes or failures in life (career, financial, relational), or residential choice. These criticisms are intended to elevate one’s own position in comparison with the target parent, who becomes diminished by this good/bad dichotomy. Criticizing behaviors are often insidious, occurring over a period of time with different degrees of intensity but always powerful. Like the wearing away of a stone constantly assaulted by waves, the child’s perception of the target parent changes from its original, more positive view, finally conforming to the programming parent’s negative opinions and sentiments. In such cases, the effect can become almost irreversible. These children are no longer able to accept both parents as equally good. In successful brainwashing, even if the child is deprogrammed with valid counter-information or has positive experiences with the other parent, the child may rewrite reality or will rationalize, ascribing ulterior motives to the target parent in the service of maintaining the beliefs of the indoctrinating parent.
Threat of Withdrawal-of-Love Technique ~ This is a coercive, powerful, and almost universally successful technique utilized by parents who programme. Here, the children come to fear rejection or loss of love from a parent if they express love or a desire to be with the other parent. It becomes implicitly or explicitly understood that to be loved and accepted, the child must become a cohort and also turn against the other parent.
“I’m the Only One Who Really Loves You” Technique ~ The intent is to create the belief that the target parent or those who are associated with that parent are not sincere in their love and caring for the child. Genuine love, interest, and involvement, by contrast, exist only in the heart of the programmer. The child is led to peer beneath the surface where ulterior motives lurk. The child comes to believe himself/herself a fool for being duped into attributing such positive qualities of love and caring to an obviously clever person who is bent on driving a wedge between the parent (programmer) and child.
“You’re an Endangered Species” Technique ~ One method of instilling distrust, fear, lack of love, or the belief that a parent is unable to care properly for the child is accomplished through a procedure of judgmental, opinionated, and negative commentary and/or physical inspection and interrogation once the child arrives “home” again. Through these techniques, the child comes to interpret anything associated with the target parent as wrong or unsafe and to perceive his or her ongoing existence as being at risk with each contact. If the child is tired from a full weekend in which there were enjoyable activities, the interpretation might be, “Your father always wears you out. What’s wrong with him? Doesn’t he know you have school tomorrow?”
Rewriting-Reality Technique ~ This technique is also referred to as rewriting history or rescripting. Through rewriting reality, the brainwasher attempts to convince a child to doubt his or her ability to perceive reality. A child may observe a scenario unfold from beginning to end, but as the brainwashing parent repetitively goes over the scenario and resists the child’s interpretation, the original and “true” reality is ultimately filtered out and the rewritten script is eventually adopted. The basic reward is parental acceptance and love.
Physical-Survival Technique ~ Although each of these syndromes, administered individually or in combination, works its inexorable effects on children, the use or threat of physical punishment is one of the most potentially injurious acts for children. When a brainwashing parent or other agent resorts to threatening and/or physically punishing a child, it is usually the result of frustration over the child’s noncompliance in adopting the programme
I was a targeted parent in the anti-family court system for many years.
I went through nine attorneys and lost everything and I became homeless.
The amount of corruption in the anti-Family Court system is truly amazing.
So I became a pro se lit again.
I was very determined to beat the attorneys. it took me many years of understanding the right procedures of the Pennsylvania court, and writing really good pleadings, but I finally did it myself, because no attorney in the country whatever help me.
I got 50-50 custody after I was alienated from my daughter for almost 5 years.
I see people claiming 50-50 custody doesn’t work.
It doesn’t work for the narcissist and for someone not willing to work with the narcissist.
My ex-wife didn’t want to work with me, but I became so good at my legal filings that I put her in a bad spot and that’s what you have to do to fight back and get your rights back.
I also terminated child support not only that I got $60,000 back from my ex-wife because I don’t like attorneys in federal court.
I got over 40 court orders granted as a pro se.
I also went to many rallies and supported 50-50 custody in Pennsylvania and donated my time to help out other parents to learn how to fight back the right way. I am not biased.
I support both mothers and fathers.
This is happening to both mothers and fathers.
You can fight back but you have to do things the right way.
I do not support feminist and I don’t support fathers that hate mothers.
Also, I don’t support anyone that doesn’t support 50-50 custody. No matter how bad your situation is don’t be like them.
Joan kloth Zinard
REPORT A JUDGE TO THE FBI.
IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOUR CHILD(REN) ARE 5, 25 OR 35. PSYCHOLOGICAL CHILD ABUSE IS A CRIME LISTED IN THE DSM-5 V995.51 A SHARED DELUSION • PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTROL
JUDGES THAT ORDER PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE NEED TO BE REPORTED AND CHARGED.
EMOTIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DEFINITION BY THE UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE: “HARMING ONES RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS/HER CHILDREN”
https://www.childabusivejudges.com
So I was trying to write a step by step process of what they were doing to remove me from my children’s lives. I figured you guys would get sick of the long version of it and quit reading 😀 so I basically listed the cliff notes version.
*FAMILY LAW, HOW TO USE THE SYSTEM* (CORRUPT)
Step 1. Accuse father of the most outrageous things we can think of! (See “Using the Silver Bullet” for further guidance, use Google) http://www.targetedparent.com/blog/2016/2/22/the-silver-bullet
(“Silver Bullet practice of divorce)…look it up corrupt attorneys encourage their female clients to do it.
Step 2. Ask father to jump through a bunch of hoops to prove he is “worthy to remain” his children’s father….?
Step 3. POINT OUT “the fact that he went to anger management and/or endured a mental health evaluation proves he must have a problem, why else would he go?” lol!
Step 4. At this point you should have the father really frustrated! Keep a record of him pleading with you to stop destroying him mentally, financially, and professionally! (An ancillary benefit to this step is, you might actually drive the victim to drinking ! Added Ammo!! Good try but didn’t work!!)
Step 5. Use the record (see step 4) to accuse him of “harassing” you, and request a restraining order! File as many orders as you can at this point! Nice try but police eventually read right through it.
Step 6. Hope that he breaks one the ridiculous orders! Once you complete the previous steps, he should get caught up in the system, stall him some more, stonewall and recycle fabricated events or come up with new ones…and no one will pay attention to his cry’s that the “original accusations were all made up!” All the wile this further delays any contact with his kids… (assisted by the court none the less)
Step 7. Sit back and smile when he goes to more trials and tribulations for breaking an order that should have never been and handcuffed him with contact and financially! Or at the very least enjoy taking every dime you can while putting him down, undermining him to the children he only wanted to be there for! This is the meanwhile parentifies them and leads to further disconnect of child parent bond. (hey, are we on to something here?)
Step 8. If steps 1-6 didn’t work, start over at Step 1, sometimes they can be stubborn! Lol!!
Persistence will get you to Step 7!! (Needless to say, he will be paying for your legal fees anyway!)
THAT IS “VICIOUSLY REMOVING A LOVING FATHER FROM HIS CHILDREN’S LIFE” 101
Author: Anonymously a Father who knows his children are becoming damaged goods and the real criminals and deadbeats walk.
False Allegations of Abuse During Divorce: The Role of Alienating Beliefs
https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/false-allegations-of-abuse-during-divorce-the-role-of-alienating-beliefs
“False allegations of abuse are an all-too-common phenomenon during divorce and child custody proceedings. One parent fabricates a false allegation against the other parent to gain leverage in court and to undermine the parent-child relationship going forward. The frequency of false allegations in custody cases is not fully understood, with estimates ranging from 2% to 35% of all cases involving children.1 Whatever the percentage, attorneys, judges, and mental health experts all know firsthand that it is a vexing problem in court cases. And nothing can disrupt, sidetrack, or impede a case more than an allegation of abuse that eventually proves to be false.”
Here are 7 common alienating beliefs that occur in false allegations:
1. “I am afraid our child will love you more than me and will want to live with you.”
2. “I want my child all to myself.”
3. “If you don’t want me, you don’t get our child, either.”
4. “I want to exact revenge on you, and what better way than to deprive you of your child.
5. “I don’t want my child to be anything like you.”
6. “I’ve been the real parent in this family, not you.”
7. “I don’t want my child to love their new stepparent because I might be pushed out.”
http://www.stephenkrasner.com/articles-family-law.html Enough information to make your head spin.
A Broken System: Halls of Justice
Stephen Krasner, Contributor
2016 – A Broken System Series
A Broken System: Halls of Justice
A Broken System: Motions for Money
A Broken System: Fighting To Be A Dad
A Broken System: Misconduct and Whistle-Blowing
A Broken System: Parental Alienation
A Broken System: Stewards of Fraud
A Broken System: Child-Parent Sanctity (CPS)
A Broken System: Veteran and Service Member Mistreatment
A Broken System: Court Sanctioned Legal Abuse
A Broken System: Contempt Of Family Court
2017 – A Broken System Series
A Broken System: Timed-Out Custody
Parental Alienation Is Erasing Family
A Broken System: Unconstitutionality Of Family Law
A Broken System: Oaths Betrayed In Family Law
A Broken System: Gatekeeping And Alienation
A Broken System: Court Of Parents
A Broken System: Web Of Enforcement
A Broken System: Wake Of Family Law
A Broken System: Fostering Abusive Dysfunction
A Broken System: Parental Voices Unsilenced
2018 – A Broken System Series
A Broken System: A Court’s Eye View
A Broken System: Obstruction of Parental Rights
A Broken System: Deportation of Innocence
A Broken System: Electing Judicial Bias
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202204/when-allegations-domestic-violence-are-used-weapon
Key points
Many male survivors of domestic abuse stay silent due to shame and embarrassment, and fear of not being believed.
Male victims of psychological abuse are especially vulnerable to false allegations of domestic violence.
False claims of domestic violence can put a career and reputation at risk, and harm a parent’s relationship with their children and family.
Many women falsely claim DV for court purposes, and once they get the agreement or settlement they want, they drop DV case. They use DV as a sword rather than a shield. And then when a real case of DV happens…these people are buried in the other fake DV cases. And the burden of proof for DV is so low…
The FBI and CDC both reports that all forms of crime have gone down in our country over the past 20 years, especially violent crime.
So it’s curious that claims of DV have increased in our “family” courts – in lock step with the numbers of parents who want equal custody and who refuse to be erased as parents simply because an adult relationship ended.
The corresponding problem is the expansion of the definition of DV to areas it does not belong, which the states love because it increases the flow of federal dollars.
Just look at the disaster Jennifer’s Law has turned out to be and how it’s been manipulated by divorce attorneys and “family” court judges in the Riordan case.
Which is precisely what we warned legislators would happen.
The failure to investigate and prosicute crimes. The American nightmare. Dateline the Waterbury police department. The Bloomfield police department. Crime reduction and letting people out of jail to save on prosecution cost and incarceration cost. The Sacred Heart University student recant. One of the accused moves on the rape another at gun point. The failure to address violent crimes across the United States of America. It’s not just family court.
The Hartford police department. The Attorney generals office attempting to cover up sexual assault and call it a hate crime. The federalist involvement in crime. The States receiving the public health care money. Trying to legalize sexual assault, pedophilia, physical, emotional and psychological abuse. The government is controlling the issue, but saying these are state issues. The problem is in the federal funding and the money buying the court system from members of the federalist society. This appears to be the big problem and lack of accountability. The problem appears in the Senate. The Democratic party seems to be leading the federalist into power and control of the courts both family and criminal. Saving money for the economic growth and development. Surplus, retirement and benefits.
https://frankreport.com/2023/04/14/allegations-of-criminal-abuse-should-not-be-handled-in-family-court-with-its-low-to-no-evidence-rules/
THIS ABUSE OF THE SYSTEM IS AN ATROCITY! IT SHOWS HOW CORRUPT OUR FAMILY COURTS ARE. IT SHOWS HOW DESPERATELY THE FAMILY COURT SYSTEM NEEDS TO BE CHANGED.
My thoughts:
1) All financial matters related to a divorce are only in regular civil court. Stop mixing the apples and oranges. Coparenting the children is completely separate from financial matters. You do not need money to co-parent.
2) If there are true allegations of abuse or neglect, they need to be properly investigated to rule out all false allegations, and this can only be done in criminal court. In criminal court, a low-income parent can get legal assistance to defend the allegations and be properly represented. Typically family law attorneys are NOT criminal attorneys. Including criminal abuse allegations in family court means family law attorneys must also be criminal attorneys.
3) Family court cases need to be mediated and mediated, and mediated and mediated and mediated until such time as there is enough evidence that one party or both refuse to co-parent. Mediators need to be trained mental health professionals, or at least, the mediation team should include an attorney and a mental health professional. If there are financial issues directly related to the children’s activities or care, then a financial expert is added.
WE NEED TO STOP THE ADVERSARIAL PROCESS. FAMILIES DO NOT NEED ANY MORE ADVERSITY. THEY NEED COLLABORATION, AS THEY WILL ALWAYS BE THE PARENTS OF THE CHILDREN. AND THE CHILDREN DESERVE A CHILDHOOD FREE OF THEIR PARENTS’ CONFLICTS.
This is not a concerned citizen this is an alienation industry professional flamer
This is targeted information. There is many cases of abused children in the United States being given over to parents claiming parental alienation. Unsupported facts targeted as a gender. This information is not a concerned parent. It’s a personal financially invested in the ALIENATION INDUSTRY. Who does understand and ignores battered women syndrome. Doesn’t care for the effects of domestic violence and doesn’t care about the cycle of abuse. Leading women and children to make bad choices of partner because they are told abuse is ok. The state of Connecticut doesn’t ignores and criminalize reports of abuse. The attorney general’s office turns attempted sexual assault into hate crimes for federal funding. The concerned parent is over the top because her spouse has to pay child support. Child due deserve not to be involved in conflict. More importantly they DON’T DESERVE To Be ABUSED. TAUGHT their mother is bad for trying to protect them. We don’t need more Michelles in the state of Connecticut. That is exactly who you are.
https://psychlaw.net/brainwashing-techniques-used-by-alienating-parents/
Brainwashing Techniques used by Alienating Parents
“Programming” and “Brainwashing” are two terms used by Dr. Stanley Clawar and Brynne Rivlin [1] to describe the methods and techniques used by alienating parents to manipulate their children into rejecting and/or hating the target parent. According to Clawar & Rivlin (2013), “programming and brainwashing is a process (intentional and unintentional) whereby a parent … attempts to limit, damage, and interfere with the love, contact, and image of the target parent” (p. 9). In their 25-year study of 1000 divorced/separated families commissioned by the American Bar Association, they identified 12 brainwashing techniques used by alienating parents (Clawar & Rivlin, 2013, pp. 31-63);
Denial-of-Existence Technique ~ One of the basic techniques parents use to assault the character of the other parent is to deny or not acknowledge the social existence of the other parent. The manner of denial can vary greatly. One common technique is simply never to talk about the other parent. By excluding any discussion of the other parent or ignoring the topic when raised by the child, the brainwashing parent can send a subtle message to the child that the other parent is not significant. He or she does not exist in our conversation, and therefore, he or she does not, in social terms, exist.
The “Who, Me?” Technique ~ A subtle but powerful technique is to make indirect attacks on the other parent. When questioned about such attacks, the brainwashing parent will say, “Who, me?” The programmer indicates that he or she meant no such thing and that the listener or child was certainly misinterpreting. The list of indirect attacks is infinite, but the basic pattern is that the programmer/brainwasher attacks something about the character, lifestyle, past, present, or future of the target parent.
Middle-Man Technique ~ By speaking to the child about issues that should be first discussed with the other parent, the programmer/brainwasher can compromise and/or damage the child’s relationship with or image of the target parent. For instance, discussing time-schedule arrangements by asking questions such as, “Do you think you would like to have more time with Mom?” often places the child in the middle. The pressure on the child is to make a choice in front of an inquiring parent.
Circumstantial Technique ~ By manipulating, changing, rearranging, and commenting on time, the programming parent tries to gain dominance in the eyes of the children. “Your mother’s always late for delivery and pickup. I wonder if she would be late for her own funeral.” The other parent told her children, “He’s always early for pickup, but late for delivery.” These parents are attacking character by discussing punctuality. Not informing the other parent of school dates, plays, conferences, ceremonies, awards, sporting events, and the like is a way of signifying to the children that the other parent lacks importance.
“I Don’t Know What’s Wrong with Him” Technique ~ Many parents have developed a technique whereby they create and/or exaggerate differences between themselves and the other parent in front of the children. A behavioral pattern is that arguments develop at the time of pickup and delivery of the children. Often the initial phase of the conversation is polite and appropriate. If the conversation goes on beyond a certain point, however, the brainwashing parent might instigate an argument by using a phrase or presenting an idea that he or she consciously or unconsciously knows will incite the other parent.
Ally Technique ~ Attempting to get the children to side with one parent against the other occurs both in and outside of marriage. At the time of separation, divorce, or custody conflict, however, the attempt to ally the children is stronger. An example would be asking the children direct questions such as, “Don’t you think your mother is wrong to try to get all the money she can from us?” Other such questions are “You’re a sensitive child—do you think it’s fair for a father to have all that money? He just bought himself a new car and a house—look at how we have to live.”
Morality Technique ~ Programming behaviors often include moral judgments against the target parent concerning his/her values, lifestyle, choice of friends, successes or failures in life (career, financial, relational), or residential choice. These criticisms are intended to elevate one’s own position in comparison with the target parent, who becomes diminished by this good/bad dichotomy. Criticizing behaviors are often insidious, occurring over a period of time with different degrees of intensity but always powerful. Like the wearing away of a stone constantly assaulted by waves, the child’s perception of the target parent changes from its original, more positive view, finally conforming to the programming parent’s negative opinions and sentiments. In such cases, the effect can become almost irreversible. These children are no longer able to accept both parents as equally good. In successful brainwashing, even if the child is deprogrammed with valid counter-information or has positive experiences with the other parent, the child may rewrite reality or will rationalize, ascribing ulterior motives to the target parent in the service of maintaining the beliefs of the indoctrinating parent.
Threat of Withdrawal-of-Love Technique ~ This is a coercive, powerful, and almost universally successful technique utilized by parents who programme. Here, the children come to fear rejection or loss of love from a parent if they express love or a desire to be with the other parent. It becomes implicitly or explicitly understood that to be loved and accepted, the child must become a cohort and also turn against the other parent.
“I’m the Only One Who Really Loves You” Technique ~ The intent is to create the belief that the target parent or those who are associated with that parent are not sincere in their love and caring for the child. Genuine love, interest, and involvement, by contrast, exist only in the heart of the programmer. The child is led to peer beneath the surface where ulterior motives lurk. The child comes to believe himself/herself a fool for being duped into attributing such positive qualities of love and caring to an obviously clever person who is bent on driving a wedge between the parent (programmer) and child.
“You’re an Endangered Species” Technique ~ One method of instilling distrust, fear, lack of love, or the belief that a parent is unable to care properly for the child is accomplished through a procedure of judgmental, opinionated, and negative commentary and/or physical inspection and interrogation once the child arrives “home” again. Through these techniques, the child comes to interpret anything associated with the target parent as wrong or unsafe and to perceive his or her ongoing existence as being at risk with each contact. If the child is tired from a full weekend in which there were enjoyable activities, the interpretation might be, “Your father always wears you out. What’s wrong with him? Doesn’t he know you have school tomorrow?”
Rewriting-Reality Technique ~ This technique is also referred to as rewriting history or rescripting. Through rewriting reality, the brainwasher attempts to convince a child to doubt his or her ability to perceive reality. A child may observe a scenario unfold from beginning to end, but as the brainwashing parent repetitively goes over the scenario and resists the child’s interpretation, the original and “true” reality is ultimately filtered out and the rewritten script is eventually adopted. The basic reward is parental acceptance and love.
Physical-Survival Technique ~ Although each of these syndromes, administered individually or in combination, works its inexorable effects on children, the use or threat of physical punishment is one of the most potentially injurious acts for children. When a brainwashing parent or other agent resorts to threatening and/or physically punishing a child, it is usually the result of frustration over the child’s noncompliance in adopting the programme
Footnote:
[1] Clawar, S. S., & Rivlin, B. (2013). Children held hostage second edition: Identifying brainwashed children, presenting a case, and crafting solutions. American Bar Association.
Welcome to the end of Democracy. This is a federalist agenda. Using federal funding over the best interest of children and society. The economic growth and development. Division of race, gender and socioeconomic status of the united states citizens. The welfare reform act and fatherhood initiative. Curiosity of the Connecticut government. Using federal funding through the MOU to control the citizens of the state of Connecticut. Punishing less monetized people especially women for filling for divorce. Hiding behind a minority program. Leaving women of all colors, religion and socioeconomic status forced into marriage. Also at the expense of innocent children. DCF under federalist society rules. Million of children missing, presumed trafficed, sexually and physically assaulted in states care. Preditory legal practice bankrupting the little people so the mostly lead by lawyers federalist society can take advantage of the public. If you want to change the and really enact reform and equality in the state. Vote these politicians out of office. Especially the Connecticut Senitors. Using federal funding to enact gender apartheid through alienator gatekeeper claims. The Connecticut department of health failure to protect and address the psychologist engaging in uneithical practices hidding behind immunity. Say no to federalism. Yes to the protection of the citizens of the state despite race, religion and socioeconomic status. WE THE LITTLE PEOPLE. The federal welfare reform act and fatherhood initiative needs to be abolished.
Please do your homework. The legislation to increase terms in Connecticut. A federalist agenda. The majority focus on economic growth and development of the nation. The government stacking federalist in the supreme Court. Overturning civil rights. Yale law school federalist society. Originalism. When women had no rights. Federalism doesn’t believe children have rights. They are possessions. The dark money injected in to the country. Blumenthal attendance to communism events.
Anyone concerned about the failure of our “family” courts to respond to claims of domestic violence should take note that Gov. Lamont nominated Steve Dembo to become a judge in our state today. A nightmare divorce attorney who has no business being a judge in our state.
Lamont and Susan Bysiewicz are in the family court racket. It shouldn’t be shocking. Get the trash out of office.
The problem we are experiencing in family court is federalism. The family court is a court of equaity with the triangulation of the Federal welfare reform act and fatherhood initiative. “Responsible fatherhood”. The entire project is based on the economic growth and development of the united states. The supreme Court is overturning civil rights cases. The supreme Court is full of federalist. Under the federalist children have no legal rights. ” Best interest” taking a back seat to “all father’s to be engaged in the lives of their children” with no discussion of the conditions. Pediples, physically or mentally abusive fathers. The state of Connecticut and stakeholders are all partnered with the fatherhood initiative through the MOU. Considerable federal funding has been investigated in programs like real Dad’s are forever and fatherhood flames. With a media compain. Sighting fatherless household are leading to the destruction of society. Attempting to attach school shootings, and a whole host of other things. The use of toxic feminity. Used by father’s rights attorneys. Such as Melissa Issac in the United States military. Practicing in Florida where the state has now been flooded with fatherhood initiative money. Domestic violence shelters are closing. Reporting of women being forced into staying in abusive household due to lack of assistance. Florida once known for strict child support enforcement. Currently the united states is in significant loss for “fatherhood” responsible in financial support. Not good for the economic growth and development of the nation. Connecticut being reported to ignoring child support arrears and not requesting financial. A whole host of complaints. Sealing cases brought before the child support magistrates. Our entire family court system is being run off the welfare reform act started in the state of Connecticut. All for the economic growth and development. The culture being placed in the language is a federalist culture. The ignoring of the complaints are due to the federalist charges being. Made at supreme Court level. Allowing the state of Connecticut not to address the family court system and protection of children and the mothers. The family court system children welfare attorneys are following the all father’s to be engaged in the lives of their children no matter the situation. Given immunity under the state to follow the federal program. Parental alienation is used in every custody dispute case. Millions of dollars donated legally to university. Yale being a federalist society leader. A partner in the MOU fatherhood initiative and pushing federalism agenda in Connecticut legal system in family court. Pushing punishing women reporting such things as sexual assault. Lack of evidence is considered not credible. Reporting violent crimes and abuse is discouraged. Consider a “public health problem”. Saving in incarceration and prosecution. As well as a men’s rights groups agenda. Big problems in DCF, sexual trafficking, child trafficking and they want to reduce the time on registry despite the research that the population often offends well in to old age. Languestics leaning towards a sexual preference. It’s all related. Federalism is about economics growth and development. Little assistance to people in need. Connecticut is separating people by gender, religion, color and economic status. The democratic party controlling Connecticut continues to paint a picture of the economic growth and development. While falling to address family court, violent crimes and civil rights violations. Federalism is working for the political leaders and monetized people in the state. The volnerable members of society are being harmed and painted as discruntaled and criminals trying to exercise rights they have no idea they have lost.
The funding is coming for the federal program is coming from the democratic federal judiciary. Democrat Richard Blumenthal Connecticut leading the way. With the Senitor from Florida following. Perhaps the woman in the GOP would be willing to help?
Best interest. The mental state of the parents and the child. Policies of a third party contract. The stability ( financial ) of the place where children reside. Imagine the environment people being forced to live in high conflict. Imagine the mental health of children told they are liars and their experiences don’t matter. Imagine the ill treatment of the so called ” family law professionals” . The mental state of people while attorneys ripping through retainer. They can’t represent you in important hearings until you pay them more money. Providing poor representation of facts and forcing you into more costly agreement. The other side receiving financial resources while yours are depleted. The family courts are creating conditions. The conditions the state of Connecticut has created for divorcing spouses who don’t agree on custody. Imagine presenting evidence and the court refusing to consider it. Preditory Attorneys given immunity for the project allowed ” for the greater good”. The economic growth and development. It’s all about the money. It’s not about the children. It’s not about equity.
The National Parents Organization gives CT a grade of “F”, along with nine other states, when it comes to equal and shared parenting and because our state doesn’t include a federally mandated presumptive parenting time formula in its child support guidelines.
Causing parents to rely on costly and lengthy court proceedings for modifications which are routine and solely administrative in most other states.
Perhaps the court system should do away with child welfare attorneys and the court ordered psychologist. People should be allowed to provide their own evidence. Psychological evaluation. The tax payers are being denied the use of family services. What are we paying for? Is it because of the “conflict of interest” . Then appoint someone new to run it. Equal parenting and presumption are not for child abuse cases.
Child abuse cases do not belong in our “family” courts because they are not courts of evidence and law. If a child is being abused, you call the police or DCF hotline. You don’t run to “family” court because that’s not why that court exists. Too many do so to take advantage.
Any more than you would run to probate court if someone who was elderly were being abused.
(One retired divorce attorney I know practiced “family” law years before DCF even existed. He often quipped that if children were being abused back then, the police were called, they arrived immediately, and they arrested the problem parent. He didn’t recall bloody and battered children walking the streets.)
Nor should anyone or any child be ‘evaluated’ by the state. The state doesn’t evaluate married parents, they have no right to “evaluate” divorcing parents simply because an adult relationship ended.
One of the biggest problems we all face is the lack of access to meaningful statistics and metrics.
1. Do fathers get full custody more than mothers?
2. Do mothers get full custody more than fathers?
3. How often do our courts promote and order equal and shared parenting?
4. Does money play a role in outcomes?
5. Who is ordered to pay what?
6. What are GALs paid?
7. What are the attorneys paid?
8. How many cases are returned to court? (That one we know, from former Chief State Justice Rogers)
9. What is the average number of motions filed?
10. What is the average length and cost of a custody case?
11. How many cases involve claims of DV?
12. How many of these claims are supported by a finding in court of evidence and law based on probable cause?
13. How many court orders are appealed, and/or overturned?
14. Which attorneys appear before which judges most often?
15. Does that have an impact on outcomes?
16. Etc.
We all have our personal experiences and (and biases) but the hard data is not out there, because the states and courts do not track outcomes, or costs.
The information IS available, just not readily accessible, or it is being deliberately kept from us.
There have been some who have created surveys, and that’s a step in the right direction, but not broad enough.
We have the flawed work of Joan Meyers, who we’d like to think meant well.
There is a site where people can rate their judges (www.therobingroom.com) but few people know it exists.
In the very near future, A.I. may help unlock this information. 😉
Currently the state of Connecticut is a best interest state. Cases are decided on the merit. The equal and shared parenting would absolve that. Leaving children to be in harms way.. Connecticut is claiming to have a low crime rate. Often plea bargains lesser charges to cut back on cost of prosecution and incarceration it appears. So statistics are and in question. Currently private citizens are armed and patrolling Hartford. Citizens from other communities reaching out for assistance from this group. Statistics are important however each case should be based on the individual cases. Evidencery hearing are not taking place. Blanket application of parental alienation which Peter fought to be used in family courts are taking place. The point of the articles are the absence of best interest for equality over well-being. The use of non recognized mental health diagnosis over evidence. The statistics are important but appearing to be possibly altered due to criminal reform and cost savings. Equity is the ability to present a case based on evidence and merit. Our justice system should be built on the individual cases not the masses. Not unrecognized theories and hypothesis.
I am currently going through almost exactly what Casey went through- it’s almost a mirror image of my situation. I am in Georgia going through this. Is anyone willing to help me? I am financially drained and emotionally drained. If someone is willing to help me,
Please reach out to me. I would be so grateful to have to help in fighting this battle.
This story mirrors mine, except I’m not in CT, the RT my ex chose wasn’t even licensed, and his attorney (a younger woman who was clearly touting the alienation line) simply used our case for her career. The GAL was biased, and I tried to get her removed. I am a victim of a custody reversal. I had to go prose because 1) I ran out of money and 2) no lawyer knew how to defend against false allegations of alienation (because this was literally their meal ticket). I was the primary for 10 YEARS and when the kids started complaining about his abuse and that of his new gF and her older son, now he’s alienated. I have lost my home, car, finances are in a shamble, I was suicidal, and had to move in with a friend. All of this because of junk science. This is a human rights violation.
It’s heartbreaking to see the effects of paternal alienation in canada. Fathers who genuinely want to be involved in their children’s lives are often marginalized due to misconceptions and societal biases. This issue is more than just a legal battle—it’s about maintaining the emotional and psychological well-being of children. Children deserve to have both parents actively present in their upbringing, and alienating one parent can lead to developmental challenges. It’s crucial for Canadian family courts to evaluate these cases with fairness and empathy, ensuring the best interests of children come first.
It’s intriguing to consider how the divorce rate in Canada intersects with cultural attitudes toward marriage. In recent years, there’s been a growing acceptance of divorce as a valid choice rather than a stigma. This shift encourages individuals to prioritize their happiness, leading to healthier relationships overall. However, it’s important to recognize that the reasons for divorce are complex and varied. Communication breakdowns, financial stress, and differing life goals all play significant roles. By addressing these issues openly, we can work toward reducing divorce rates while promoting fulfilling partnerships that stand the test of time.
I think one of the reasons for the high divorce rate in Canada is that people are not ready for what marriage really means. They fall in love but forget that love also needs care, patience, and teamwork. Life gets busy, and couples stop talking or spending time together. If people focused more on each other and less on phones or work, maybe more marriages would last. Relationships are not always fun and easy, but they’re worth fighting for. What do you think is one small thing couples can do daily to stay close?
This is Sonia step mother of two boys who are going thru same situation. The mother is an abuser and is keeping children in residential and hospital from 16 months to maintain custody. The probate court judge has cancelled a 209 an order of child against mother. We need help will anyone of you please help us